30 days of no yelling: Do you dare?

30 days of no yelling: Do you dare?

As parents, our words and actions have a profound impact on our children’s emotional and overall well-being. Peaceful parenting is about nurturing a positive connection with our little ones, fostering mutual respect, and teaching valuable life skills. By eliminating yelling from our parenting toolbox, we create a safe and loving space where our children can thrive, grow, and develop a healthy self-esteem.

Yelling does improve temporary relief in moments of frustration, but it comes at a cost. Research shows that frequent yelling can lead to long-term negative consequences for children, including increased anxiety, lower self-esteem, and impaired emotional regulation. Let us make an intentional choice to break the cycle and choose healthier alternatives.

Participating in a 30-day no yelling challenge could be a wonderful way to create a more peaceful and positive environment for both you and your children.

Here are some tips to help you yell less:

  1. Set clear intentions: Clearly define your goal and the reasons why. Understanding the benefits and the impact it can have on your family will help keep you motivated.
  2. Establish alternative communication strategies: Yelling often happens when emotions are high and communication breaks down. Explore alternative ways to express your frustrations or concerns, such as taking deep breaths, using a calm and firm tone, or using “I” statements to express your feelings.
  3. Practice active listening: Make an effort to truly listen to your children and acknowledge their feelings and perspectives. This can help defuse conflicts and promote understanding.
  4. Model positive behavior: Remember that your children learn from your actions. By modeling calm and respectful behavior, you’re teaching them valuable lessons in communication and emotional regulation.
  5. Identify triggers: Take note of the situations or circumstances that tend to trigger your yelling. By identifying these triggers, you can develop strategies to manage your emotions and respond more calmly.
  6. Take regular breaks: Parenting can be stressful, and it’s important to take care of yourself. Take breaks when you feel overwhelmed or on the verge of yelling. Step away from the situation for a few minutes to calm down and gather your thoughts.
  7. Seek support: Talk to your partner, friends, or other parents who are participating in the challenge or have similar goals. Sharing your experiences and seeking support can make the journey easier. Or book a session here. Use code “LAUNCH” for a discount
  8. Be patient and forgiving: Changing ingrained habits takes time and effort. There may be times when you slip up and raise your voice. Instead of beating yourself up, acknowledge your mistake, apologize if necessary, and recommit to the challenge.
  9. Celebrate successes: Recognize and celebrate your achievements along the way. Each day without yelling is a step forward, so acknowledge your progress and the positive changes you see in your family dynamics.
  10. Reflect on the experience: Take some time to reflect on what you’ve learned and the positive impact it has had on your family. Consider incorporating the strategies and techniques you’ve developed into your everyday parenting style.

Are you ready to take the first step towards a more peaceful household?

Join The FREE 30-Day No Yelling Challenge

This is a commitment to refrain from yelling for an entire month. It’s a personal journey of self-discovery, growth, and transformation. By replacing yelling with patience, active listening, and positive reinforcement, you’ll build stronger connections with your children and create an environment where everyone feels heard and understood. You can do this anytime by yourself or join our community so we do it together.

Next steps

  1. Download your challenge sheet below and follow us on instagram to get daily tips to keep you committed or at least laughing through it.
  2. Follow us on instagram as we would post tips every day for the 30 days – We start on the 15th of July 2023 In sha’a Allah
  3. Join our whatsapp community (link below) to have cheerleaders and get solutions to real life daily struggles. I think it would be great to have people cheer your on and celebrate with you and encourage you as you go.
  4. Share this with your loved ones and your parenting tribe

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By participating in the 30-Day No Yelling Challenge, you’re joining a growing movement of parents dedicated to creating nurturing and respectful environments for their children. Together, we can redefine parenting norms, inspire others to embrace peaceful approaches, and raise a generation of emotionally secure and confident individuals.

Are you ready to take the leap? Join us in the 30-Day No Yelling Challenge and witness the positive impact it can have on your family dynamics. Together, let’s create a world where love, understanding, and peaceful communication shape the foundation of our parenting journeys.

Remember, the goal of the challenge is to create a more harmonious and respectful environment for your family. Even if you don’t succeed every day, the effort you put into minimizing yelling and improving communication will make a difference.

Let’s Normalize Parent Education

Let’s Normalize Parent Education

I firmly believe that empowering parents with knowledge and support is crucial for the holistic development of our children and the well-being of our families. Since becoming a parent, there has been so much learning and unlearning and relearning. Apparently, it is not like instant coffee, you do not just know what to do as soon as the baby is born.

Parenting is both rewarding and challenging. As we strive to provide the best opportunities and guidance for our children, we find ourselves grappling with the complexities of modern parenting. This is where parent education plays a vital role. It equips us with the necessary tools, strategies, and resources to navigate the journey of raising children and loving the process too. And for us working for this life and the next, it is a level deeper.

Parent education encompasses a wide range of topics, including child development, effective communication, positive discipline, mental health awareness, and then do not forget the spiritual development. It not only enhances our parenting skills but also fosters a stronger bond between parents and children and their Rabb. By investing in our own growth as parents, we create a nurturing environment that promotes the overall well-being and success of our children in both worlds.

Sadly, parent education is not yet normalized in our society. It is often overlooked or undervalued, leading to missed opportunities for personal and spiritual growth and the wholesome development of our children. However, we can change this narrative by collectively acknowledging the importance of parent education.

For some reason today, I was thinking of this ayah and a perspective that has stayed with me for a while…

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفّٖ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلٗا كَرِيمٗا | وَٱخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحۡمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرٗا

[Surah Al-Isrāʾ: 23-24]

For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And honour your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them ˹even˺ ‘ugh,’ nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully.And be humble with them out of mercy, and pray, “My Lord! Be merciful to them just like they raised me when I was young.”

And in the du’a it says Allah should have mercy on them just like they had mercy on you. And the onus is on the parents as well – however they treated you. And when you think about it, it is deep, especially for parents who just think they can do anyhow. So the responsibility is huge. It should not be something that we “wing.”

Let’s seek this knowledge. Let’s find supportive groups. Let’s initiate discussions with fellow parents, educators, and community leaders about the significance of tarbiyah. And let us be more open to learning.

May Allah help us raise our children. Amin!

Here are a few recommendations to get started…

First, follow us on instagram – our link in bio is updated with so many valuable resources regularly.

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I do believe that books are underrated in terms of all the knowledge they provide.

My dear friend created a beautiful course that covers the basics of what to teach your child and how to bring islam to your child in a way that is age appropriate. Even if you are not a homeschooling mum, tarbiyah is your responsibility. You get lifetime access and a bonus gift.

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And mama, you are not alone.